Quote: How do I feel about this? Relieved, but frustrated, and stressed all the same.
Like you and others who posted, I had the experience of the C validating me in a one-on-one and saying that she frankly didn't think my bf would be capable of making the changes necessary to turn him into a man capable of kindness and intimacy in under a few YEARS of constant work on his part. She validated that when I feel crazy, he is doing crazy-making behavior and I am having an appropriate reaction. At one point she said to him, "You're so convinced Lil is going to leave you that you're driving her away."
We're also not seeing her or anyone at the moment.
HD, it's as if you've been slogging toward a mountain in the fog, and now the fog has cleared and you're getting a look at how BIG that mountain really is...
