Julie, I would take this one step further and say that if I suddenly morphed into what H thinks he would like better, he'd actually not have much interest in that person.
Let's say I suddenly became as interested in religion as he..what spark would there be between us when discussing it? What about me would interest him and challenge him?
He told me the other day that I keep him fresh (in regards to my arguing with him about spiritual matters--understand that this is more of a debate than an argument) because he is forced to refine and perfect his ideas before presenting them to me. Cause he knows I'll inevitably have feelings that are a 180 from his, lol.
In the same respect, I often find it infuriating that he will devote so much time to making sure our house is perfect instead of spending time with me but if he didn't do that, I'd be just as unhappy cause then I'd live with a lot of chaos.
So it is the very things that he doesn't like about me and I don't like about him, that keep it interesting and "passionate". To me, the thought of him becoming more palatable to me is a very un-passionate concept. I need his difference in order to keep me stoked up and challenged by this R. That keeps things fresh and interesting and keeps me in love with him. This may be my 7-ness though, who knows if he feels the same way!
Honey
THANK HEAVEN FOR SEVENS, are ya with me Jenny?!?!
Sorry for the hijack Hairy, I've had too much coffee today and somehow managed to get all THREE of my children asleep at the same time. Life is good, brutha man.
