HD, you have to read it. Another printing might have the information on another page. Chapter 11, "Two-Choice Dilemmas and Normal Marital Sadism" starts on page 291, topic heading "No One Wants to Face Two-Choice Dilemmas". Probally best to start reading fron the beginning of the chapter.
The woman in the book, Audrey, had issues with her mother. If I remember correctly, your W had issues with one of her parents.
Reading this part of the book might reinforce your feelings that you are right in saying your W is witholding sex. If your W read this part she might see it as you pushing her nose in the poop. Just my quick thoughts.
If my W read the book, one of her comments would be "Just another book that promotes sex from a mans point of view" or "Just another book written to justify a man getting laid." She would do it diplomatically.
Prior to my back surgery in 1981, then her hysterectomy shortly after that, my W would have been interested in the book. Now it's a touchy subject and her views are mostly, men just want sex, and it's natural for women that lose their natural hormone factory, can't take artificial hormones, to not be interested in sex. IE, castrated women become asexual. I understand my W's point to a degree but find I still need almost all the emotional and sexual closeness we had prior to 1981.
