Quote: I'm not sure if it was intentional, or subconscious.
Yeah, who really knows? and does it really matter?
Quote: And yes, there is embarassment that my wife knows about this side of me and that she does not like it.
Mind if I spin this for you. This comes from my working through my own self-esteem issues and dealing with admitting flaws and failure. So I'm really right there with you. One of the really weird and wonderful things about marriage is that your S DOES know your flaws, doesn't like them, and sticks around anyway. Let a little gratitude for this sneak in.