Hairy, What do you do during these conversations? Do you ever validate her or are you stuck in the "gotta defend myself" position?
I wrote on another thread that I have had lots o luck in validating my H's pov, even when I think he's whacko.
Something along the lines of "I can see how you would feel that way" or "I can see how it would look that way" would do a lot to take the wind outta her sails. She thrives on that wind, so every little bit helps slow her down right.
Just a thought.
Hang in there, you've got a long weekend ahead, lol.
