My H has a terrible time showing his desire. I don't get much in that dept. He looks at me when I'm naked but there is NO sign that he is looking at anything he likes or lusts after. It is very business like. Once (pretty recently too) I asked him, while he was looking at my naked body, if he liked what he saw and he said, Huh? OH! Uh, yeah you betcha.
His mind is nowhere near the sexual unless he is certain that this is a Sexual Moment.
This depresses me. I want to be able to inspire him. I want to have a guy who was previously not thinking about sex but something I did was sexy to him and now he is turned on. It seems that he gets turned on when we are in bed, naked, (that's where we have sex so I would expect those thoughts to come then) or if I say something, as in the above example. Sometimes he shows spontaneous signs of desire but they are more along the lines of extended pecks and longish hugs. These could easily be interpreted as loving gestures of affection or something more sexual--it is always up to me to hazard a guess.
Oh well, I think I should wrap up this lil pity party. He has gotten better at verbalizing his lust and I am appreciative of that, at least.
I do so wish that when he looked at me he would see a sexy woman instead of.........freak, I don't know what he sees when he looks at me. The person he lives with. The bare boobies that feed his youngest child. Practical things like that, I'm sure.
Oops, looks like the party's back on.
Honeypot, who is getting to the end of her rope with the lackanookie. If I don't get healthy soon, someone's gonna die.
