Quote: 1) What could your wive's have done short of actually leaving you that would have inspired you to the level of desire you are currently experiencing.
Before this, I'm not sure what she could have done. (DISCLAIMER: I'm just thinking outloud here.) Maybe she could have been more direct...less passive-aggressive herself. In my case, she could have offered some of the things I always wanted (oral, public S, etc.) Again, just thinking out loud. But, honestly, it took HARD action to make me "wake-up" to the reality of my behavior.
Quote: 2) If you get your wives back and they do every kinky thing on your back list of fantasies, what will keep you from losing interest again once you run out of novelties? What will keep you from maybe slipping back into your old "hobby" on a day a year from now when you're feeling kind of bored or stressed and maybe just a little peeved at your wife?
No one can predict the future. But, I can honestly say that I've become SO enlightened in these last several weeks, I can't imagine that I would ever return to my old destructive behaviors. At least if I took a turn in that direction, I would know the resources that are available to help. I'm hoping over the course of this H#LL, we're experiencing, we will learn the art of communication and sharing--HONEST--sharing about our problems. I also know that God whacked me upside the head once to wake me up--I don't ever want to experience it again.
So, there's not clear cut answer. Right now, I'm hoping that through C and the things we're learning, that my W will forgive or at least agree to work on this a TEAM. So, I'm still a LONG way from looking at a year from now. I have my story-board in place for what I want...it just depends on the other actors.
