1) What could your wive's have done short of actually leaving you that would have inspired you to the level of desire you are currently experiencing.
2) If you get your wives back and they do every kinky thing on your back list of fantasies, what will keep you from losing interest again once you run out of novelties? What will keep you from maybe slipping back into your old "hobby" on a day a year from now when you're feeling kind of bored or stressed and maybe just a little peeved at your wife?
I ask these questions because I've noticed that in my sich every time I mention leaving or seeing other men my H gets horny. OTOH on the occasions that I most want sex and initiate he is most likely to reject me. This makes me think that the basic problem is that my H only wants what he can't get and this leaves me wondering why I should want to stay in a relationship with a man who doesn't want me when I want him. As long as this is true, I will never have the sex life that I desire which would be two people coming together in mutual lust/love on a regular basis.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
