You were a big help with your reply. Thank-you so much!! I will look for that book and order it for sure. It is worth a shot to ask him to read it and read it myself.
I am also going to take myself off his menu. I notice if we do have sex anymore I always feel like crap afterwards. Because he initiated because I was complaining and making a big deal out of our intimate life. So I never am left feeling he did it because he wanted to or that he wanted me. Then I am left feeling like okay how long is this going to last where he will initiate sex to get me off his back. Because it always lasts a couple weeks then it is back to the same. It has been this way for 5 years. When I am to the point of ending the marriage is when he will try. But I guess he has come to become comfortable with that maybe? I threaten, he tries for a few weeks. He has gotten back into my good graces again until the next time. So I guess when I threaten I have had enough he don't take me seriously
If I am going to work on me I can't have this hanging over my head every day worrying and pondering about it. If I remove sex from my mind and come off his menu maybe it will help achieve two things...work on me... and make him realize I have had enough.
