Cally-- I don't really have a good answer here. I just know that for most of the M, I wasn't a big initiator. I've covered a myriad of excuses why. But, one thing was the availability. MrFixIt said it best, why have S tonight when I can watch anothr re-run of CHiPs and have S tomorrow.
But, speaking from experience NOW...it's gone, no more availabilty. I WANT it and would initiate EVERY night if she would let me. She has made it clear that she is not mine for the having anymore. She won't change in front of me, won't let me in the bathroom while she's showering, etc. It's KILLING me!
Of course, it alls circles back to the MB thing. I stopped that 6 weeks ago and as the weeks have progressed, my need has grown!! So, together with not being able to have it...I'm almost to the point of out and out begging! Not a good DB princple!!
If you can get your H to read the John Gray book, Everlasting Love (or something like that). It talks about ways for guys to achieve the ultimate intimacy...that's where I learned about the no MB thing!! And, I am a total believer in it!! Also, maybe you can try taking yourself off of his menu. I don't how this would work in a non-WA situation. In my case, my W is completely SERIOUS.
