Hey Honey-- I don't have much to add to what FixIt said. His inputs are pretty much right on! (Again--FixIt--that stuff about TV--you're scarin' me man! Are you my alter-ego?)
Just wanted to strengthen the whole novelty thing. Guys...and many girls for that matter...what what they can't/don't have. Once you get it...novelty gone. I think it goes back to our primal needs/urges...men were hunters and conquerers. They were always looking for that next wooly-mammoth to eat or tribe to conquer. So, innately, we have are always seeking the "new." Just my two cents...and just thinking out loud.
Now to change the subject a little. I also think there is an obsessive/controlling nature to our MB. Through my C, I've come to see that my obsessiveness is not just a little quirk that is entertaining to my friends and family. It has many detrimental aspects as well.
I am an all or nothing kind of guy. I'm not so obsessive that my world has to be constantly perfect. Instead, if I can't have it perfect...it will be chaos. I don't want half-a$$ed perfect...I don't want just adequate. Throw into that mix my need for control--and you have a pretty powerful destructive force. The things that I can't control and make perfect...I allow to delve into utter chaos. Example: my car...with kids...it's never going to be clean the way I want it...so it's a pig-sty. Every six months or so, I attempt to bring it back to perfect but the crushed goldfish crackers on the floor send me into a spin and I would either spent eight hours replacing the carpet or give up completely.
Does all that make sense? I think on some level it has to do with S vs. MB. S requires something out of my control...so, it can't be perfect. It's easier to just MB because for the most part, I control every aspect of that...therefore, I become obsessive about doing it.
It's scary! I didn't recognize all of that until my C and I talked about it last week. She also pointed out that the big O was all about surrendering control...so through MB, maybe I was trying to control even when I was surrending it!
Sorry if this is all confusing. I'm still working on sorting all of it out! But, I wanted to provide another perspective.
The sad thing in all of this...MOST of the root cause has nothing to do with my W at all. She is just the victim of my insecurities and personal ticks. I'm thinking...and I'm no pschologist...that many LDMs are at least some variation of me.
