Fixit, I forgot about the "it's always available" mentality...I think that plays into a lot with my H, too.
He has said those exact words to me, in reply to why it's not enticing to him. He may not be the world's most aggressive man, but he is still a MAN, kwim? He likes a challenge, the hunt. I don't provide that for him. He asked me to turn him down sometimes, in order to make things more interesting between us but I haven't done that so far. For starters, he never believes me when I DO turn him down..and tries to proceed anyway, and secondly I don't feel right doing it. What the heck is the point of turning someone down just to create a false sense of a chase for him? He would know it was false and so would I. That's just silly.
I did have an idea to flirt with him during times when it's off limits so that he can have a taste of the "I want it but can't have it" thing, but that's awfully hard to do in our current lifestyle. We have 3 small kids and they occupy so much of our physical time that I'd probably have to shout my flirts at him in order to be heard above the noise. I'm hoping that when summer hits--and the kids play outside more instead of right under our feet--I can get a little more of this dynamic going on. Plus, my H is a leg man and I always get more sex in summer anyway, LOL.
Thanks for the reply. I know it is an exceedingly hard thing to explain. I appreciate your attempts.
