Why WOULD you have chosen that all these years? What WERE you thinking?
Cause there had to be a reason. Aside from selfish idiocy, what else was going on? Did you not feel close to your wife for some reason? Was she not meeting your needs in some way?
See, I have this theory I've been flamed for, on this board. It goes like this: Sometimes the LD partner is LD because their needs are not being met, and sometimes the person is LD because they are being a turd.
I do believe that my H had needs that weren't being met but I don't believe these were the source of his LD-ness. I think it caused a small amount of unhappiness and the rest of his LD-ness was Turdish in origin.
I know how this sounds. Believe me, I'm aware that I'm coming off as a horrifying witch of a wife. But aside from laughing at the turd reference, he would heartily agree with everything I wrote.
However, I am curious to know why you and KEB would turn--repeatedly now, not just now and then--to yourself for sexual gratification instead of your wives?
This baffles me.
I hope you know this is not an attack or a whack..I'm just curious. As Jenny correctly noted, MrHP doesn't masturbate so it is a nonissue in my home. However, if I found out that this was the source of his LD, I'd be mad as a wet hen.
