Quote: I'm going to throw this out there and I don't care if I get flamed. I sometimes think that LDH's are just passive-aggressive versions of guys who cheat on their wives with other women.
I agree. Totally.
This is why I now beleive MB is destructive. I've been cheating on my wife with myself. She's been cheated so I can satisfy myself selfishly.
She would have gotten sex 2-3 times a week if I hadn't been sneaking around.
She never called me on it or connected the dots (hell she never CAUGHT me). But she was losing out. Now I'm getting ready to try to fight the opposite battle and get her to stop. If we're both on the same sheet of music, and if we both lack an easier outlet, things should be repaired. Famously.
But you're right. We're both cheating on each other and fantisising about people who aren't our spouse in the process. It's unhealthy, independnat activity that contributes to the breakdown of the marriage. It took a threat of divorce for me to examine and discover for myself what was really going on.
