I'm going to throw this out there and I don't care if I get flamed. I sometimes think that LDH's are just passive-aggressive versions of guys who cheat on their wives with other women. They obviously have the physical drive because they all use the porn/MB instead (the only exception on this BB is super-pious Mr.HP). My H even said "It's a good thing I'm LD because otherwise I probably would have cheated on you.". This is kind of a nonsensical statement unless you re-interpret it as "It's a good thing I'm passive-aggressive, otherwise I would have cheated on you with a real woman not just paper and video.". After all the same emotions that cause a more actively aggressive man to seek out an affair, resentment and a sense of entitlement, seem to be operative in causing less aggressive or action-oriented men to choose to MB rather than meeting the needs of their wives. I feel the same way about the issue now that I know that was what was happening as I would feel about an incident of adultery, I will forgive it once but if I ever, ever find out that he didn't show up for a sex date with me on Friday night because he was MB to porn Friday afternoon, my Amazon order for The Michigan Divorce Kit with children version will be placed before Saturday dawns. How's that for a boundary? Flame away.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
