Quote: Why did you think that you were giving more to the R than she was?
I was just echoing MrFixIt. That is what I always thought! See my previous post from yesterday...you know the one where I delved into my pettiness. I did and always have brought a lot to our R. I was a good provider (somewhat), the compromiser (pleaser--somewhat), the sacrificer, the compassionate one, the uber-dad, etc. Now before you attack me...just know that I realize each of these things are relative and subjective. However, I know that these are all things that I am good at being/doing--I may not have done them in the proper ration/perspective.
Let me say again, my wife has admitted to me, C and even her friends that I am GREAT dad and a good partner...it's just that I'm not a good "husband" in her definition of the role. She even admitted to feeling selfish about complaining about anything to do with me when compared to her friends' Hs and BFs. BUT, she feels she just can't go further in a R that has no chemistry or passion. She needs a MAY-UHN in addition to all the other.
So, thanks to the GREAT info I'm getting here and my own observations and studies, I'm going to work to improve that aspect of ME for ME...and if she benefits, then GREAT. If she doesn't, the too bad for her.
Don't get me wrong. I'm not going to walk away from this. I made a commitment and I CHOSE her! But, in the end, it will have to be her choice to see me for who I am becoming.
Okay...enough self-validation! That's what all of you are for RIGHT!?
