KEBall wrote -------- ...she made it know that she is still hanging on the "gay" issue. Something, somewhere has convinced her that I'm unhappy because that's who I really am. I explained once again...that it's NOT me but could feel that I was beating dead horse. Her mind is made up and it's a nice excuse to cling to for her. ----------
K, Recently I decided that having conflict discussions with my W was not making me a better person so I decided I needed to get a life. I had lunch 1X a week for a month with a fromer male friend. We were auto mechanics in the same shop 20 years ago. For doing that, my W accused me of being gay.
Next I acted on advice from an uncle that was 103 yrs old, yes born in 1901. Uncle said family members were missing out not being friendlier to T. T is very conserative, 70 yr old D female. T calls me to ask a question about her computer and lawn mower. One day I has a service call a couple blocks from her house so I go over to T's house and W accuses me of having the "Hots" for T and that I should live with her. So now I not gay.
To reinforce that I am not gay, I asked W why lori Duh, Fox TV news person, had that "come hither, I want you" look from a females point of view. Was it her smile, her glossy lipstick, was she flirting with everyone to bost ratings, or was it me? ( and thousands of other guys too from the comments she made about her fan mail).
W said now I had the "hots" for some super model. I said I didn't have the "hots for Duh, I said I just wanted to gain some insight why some people are more attractive than others. W often comments that only very good looking women get the news jobs on TV. I just wanted to have W opinion why Duh seemed to attract more attention than the other attractive female news presenters. So now I am gay and "Bi"
Anyway KEBall, spouses have certain fears, hurts, or what ever. They let them out, it's eating them up. SO's say some hurtfull things because they are hurting so much inside. Anything you do or don't do will be commented on for a while. That is the way things go untill some of the anger and resentment disapated.
