Quote: My H does TONS for me and the family...but if he let the laundry slide once in a while and just took me to bed - oh, the relationship mileage........
Karen
Hmm,
Do the laundry, f*&^ my wife? Do the laundry, f*&^ my wife? Life is so full of difficult decisions .
It seems, KEB, that you are comfortable serving your W in many ways. Do you think that ML is also "serving" your W? This can be a part of the hang-up. If you and W can get to a point of mutual pleasuring, rather than feeling pressure to send her to the moon, it might be an activity that you both would look forward to. I think it's great that you want to make your W happy. But that doesn't address the root issue of the discomfort and pressure you feel over having to ML. If your W is agreeable to reconciliation, you are going to need to work out your feelings. In fact, if she becomes aware of your feelings now, she might have her own "Aha!" moment, where she begins to understand your motivations and develop some empathy for you.
SM
"If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment." Henry David Thoreau
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