I absolutely agree with you and JJ on this. If it was merely a sex issue...she'd have been gone, it's more than that. So don't assume she's cruising for guys...unless of course she's flat-out stated that she is, which could only mean she wants to hurt you like she's been hurt...not that she's actually doing that.
I also agree with...if you want to show her affection then do it! That goes along with what I said earlier about being assertive and confident...do it, do it consistently...see how she reacts. But no matter what, be persistent about your shows of affection.
If for whatever reason she doesn't return them kee in mind she's been hurting for a long time, you need to try to be understanding of that fact too.
Here's a last thought for you. If she wanted out of the marriage, she'd have already been gone.
