Quote: unfortunately your W may not be as receptive or patient as GEL. She might have the thought that I had on occasion which is "Yeah, you love me like Mr.Brady loves Alice. I don't need that kind of love.".
You are absolutely correct here. KEBall, keep in mind that I am able to be much more understanding today than I was a year ago too. My frame of mind has changed on this because of his attempts to meet my needs in other ways, and at times stretch to try to do the things that are difficult for him...if he had not done this I'm pretty sure we would have ended up in divorce court.
12 short months ago, I figured what the hell! Why even try anymore?! I was emotionally exhausted, spent! I had nothing more to give and kept getting absolutely nothing. At this point I did consider an affair, I didn't go there...and I'm truly glad I didn't, but I was definitely of the frame of mind "what else do you expect me to do?"
KEBall, you and your W are going to a C, this is great!!! Give your W now what she's been asking for all along. If for some reason she says she's now not sexually attracted to you...do other things to let her know she's loved. Notes, cook dinners, help clean the house, take care of the kids (if you have them) whatever it is that you think will make her feel cared for.
Let me ask you this too k? I've noticed that my H is a much different person than he is at work, he's much more assertive at work than he is at home. I'm always left to make decisions...to be honest, this wasn't the man I was initially attracted to...he was confident, assertive, funny etc. (No he wasn't sexually assertive, but assertiveness is a quality he has). Confidence is often a very attractive quality to women...are you confident or passive?
