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Why do you think you didn't hear your W when she was telling you there was a problem?





My H has a lot in common with you KeBall. I just recently asked him this question(again) that GEL posed to you. He said he chose to ignore me when I got upset. I didn't really appreciate hearing this but it did help me realize that it was necessary for me to get calm and really put the marriage on the line in order for him to finally "get" or choose not to ignore the fact that we had a big problem.

I think GEL is right that you should try to explain/show all the other ways that you express your love for your W but unfortunately your W may not be as receptive or patient as GEL. She might have the thought that I had on occasion which is "Yeah, you love me like Mr.Brady loves Alice. I don't need that kind of love.".

Desperate times call for desperate measures. On another thread I semi-jokingly posted the following oath that I would make any future husband applicants take if I ended up divorced.

THE PLEDGE OF ZORBA THE GREEK

I,_____, pledge in the spirit of Zorba that there is no greater sin than to deny the desire of my woman. If I should ever sin in this manner, I shall soak my nuts in honey and serve them as baklava to the birds of prey.

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I'm not seriously suggesting that you present your W with a signed copy of this pledge, but maybe it would be helpful to make a list for yourself of all the reasons that you feel you wouldn't want to sign this pledge.




"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver