I really do sympathize with you, truly I do. Here's a question for you k? If you were to find out that what's going on in your M has nothing to do with you personally would that help your patience level...would you still be willing to end your M?
I was in your shoes a year ago, I am oh so familiar with how you feel right now. What helped me/us though is that I forced the communication issue and because I've done that I have found out it's not "me", and I've learned many of the ways my H does show that he loves "me". Granted, it's not a replacement for sex, but being able to recognize these love signs really helps my patience/understanding level throughout this process.
I know you've stated before elsewhere that your H MB's, I also can relate to how personally insulting that is...when you (a perfectly good, perfectly attractive woman) is right there for him. It gets to be very difficult.
Here's my observation on your H and KEBall here....they have desire, but it's easier to avoid you (and his W) and not face the anxiety of having performance issues than it is to MB...there's absolutely no pressure there. But THEY DO HAVE SEXUAL URGES. The key is finding out why they would rather do that than ML to their W.
For you KEBall...if you know it's laziness why would you allow that laziness to have so much control over an important aspect of your M? Why do you think you didn't hear your W when she was telling you there was a problem?
