---------- ...he's not gay..... I suspect with my H it's more of a control issue though...I think. Not that he's controlling me so much anymore, but that he holds too much in and doesn't allow himself to be emotionally vulnerable to me. He has a very stressful job, we have a problem sexually speaking, he's been very put down in the past by women, he has very low-self esteem personally (not professionally) so there's no telling what other things he's stressing over that I have no idea about....but he doesn't let these things out, he keeps them all very close to himself....TALK ABOUT STRESS! Stuff like that would make my libido take a nose dive too. --------------- KEBall... I can relate to Greeneyedlass post. I was one of those type of guys once. Mine was not one of control but feeling overwhelmed financially, prior to getting married, I had to choose If I could continue supporting my mother or my girlfriend if we got married. I new I could't do both financially or emotionally. My sex drive was there and raging, just could not let it out and have sex with the GF except a few times. GF was higher drive than I was prior to M, now she has almost no sex drive and wonders why I am HD.
My answer for my drive increasing, W cant get PG, things paid for, money in the bank for emergencies, more free time, more time together, not worried about parental responsabilities, child care issues, child rule setting and enforcing, can be fun grand parents-spoil GK's and send them home, comepition at work, worrying about down sizing / lay offs, etc. Just listed some of my reasons that can reduce Sex Drive, you might relate to or your H might be concerned about.
Don't know if this helps. Just wanted to let you know people can have a lot of sex drive that gets suppressed for a variety of reasons.
