1.Has your sex life with your partner improved since you started DBing or since you read SSM? Yes. Frequency used to be once in 2-3 months, now it is 2x a week. Quality, variety and openness have increased significantly. We have been experimenting with new things. Communication regarding sexual preferences (and a lot of other things) used to be poor, now we are openly talking about it. We are getting to the point where it seems easy and natural, and have even raced each other to the bedroom on occasion.
2.How long have you been DBing or employing the techniques in SSM? 1 year.
3.How long did it take till things improved? Sex - frequency improved immediately, and quality and variety have been continuously improving. Relationship - It took a few months for both of us to start trusting and relaxing again.
4.What was the most effective DBing or SSM technique for you? I let go of my anger, tried to see his point of view (this BB helped a great deal), accepted that his love was expressed in ways other than the physical. Actually, the most useful ideas and concepts came from ‘Passionate Marriage’. In retrospect, SSM covers much of the same ground. However, reading PM helped me understand the underlying dynamics, and gave me the tools to work on my own issues.
5.Even if it didn't improve your sex life, did DBing or SSM improve your relationship with your partner? Yes to both. The relationship has seen a marked improvement in mutual respect, kindness, understanding and acceptance.
