Informal Survey - Has Your Sex Life Improved

[SolidMechanic]

1. Has your sex life with your partner improved since you started DBing or since you read SSM?
No. We have not ML since 1997.

2. How long have you been DBing or employing the techniques in SSM?
Since last summer.

3. How long did it take till things improved?
Things improved somewhat in our relationship after a stint of marriage counciling at the end of 2004 - beginning of 2005.

4. What was the most effective DBing or SSM technique for you?Dropping anger and withdrawal, being more aware of my critical/sarcastic tongue, making greater efforts at quality time and support with the kids.

5. Even if it didn't improve your sex life, did DBing or SSM improve your relationship with your partner?
The climate of our relationship has much improved, but that has required a tremendous amount of will on my part. When I've made my case for having a SL, my wife responds by saying "I just can't do that. I can't change. If that is what you want, maybe you should get a divorce." I really feel quite hopeless. Last week was our 20th anniversary, and I spent it in a blue funk. I frequently feel that I will never have a love life with my wife. But since I first laid eyes on her 27 years ago, I've wanted no one else.

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