1. Has your sex life with your partner improved since you started DBing or since you read SSM? 2. How long have you been DBing or employing the techniques in SSM? 3. How long did it take till things improved? 4. What was the most effective DBing or SSM technique for you? 5. Even if it didn't improve your sex life, did DBing or SSM improve your relationship with your partner?
1. SL has improved a little. 2. 10 months 3. 6 months 4. Saying how much the poor R and SL really was with out all of the guilty feelings I had for upsetting her. I am still not quilt free for hurting BB's feelings, but I can talk more openly now. 5. Yes, about 10% on bad days to 35% on good days.
Ideas from the bb and the books really made me see I have to sometimes be more confrontative and say/do things even when BB is going to not agree or get upset. I have to quit trying to fix things without worrying someone else will be offended.
