I'm not married. My bf and I have lived together for 2.5 years. Reading this BB has improved my perspective tremendously. Reading SSM didn't help much. I made a half-hearted attempt to schedule sex. He agreed, but neither of us followed through. My bf and I were in therapy with two different counselors, the second one a Schnarch-trained counselor. We stopped a couple of weeks ago, because frankly I didn't see any improvement and bf is focusing ALL of his energy (and he needs to do this) on a new job. I don't think this R will last. I'm having to work too hard for too little reward-- emotionally and physically. Since we're not married, there are few logistical barriers to separating. (We each still have our own houses, and go back and forth between them.) Right now I'm coasting, not trying hard, drifting. Waiting for a sign, I guess...
