Quote: Perhaps I just felt stodgy in her presence.
Ah, once again you describe me perfectly my friend! This is how I usually feel in front of women my own age/younger than me......sigh.
Quote: I'd love to add some flirtatious qualities to my R with h. I try (perhaps lamely!) but I don't think he views me as a bubbly sort.
Yes, same here....but....I believe you mentioned a few days ago that H called you (or was it email?) and he was a bit "racy". Could you be racy right back? How would he react?