Quote: This makes perfect sense in my mind Sage. I do the above (0ften! and usually about other kind of stuff) and it's never a good outcome for anybody.
Yes! I do this with other topics as well but I've been much more effective at changing my responses to pretty much everything else but the mention of another female. (And, there ARE times when I do ok with that...some days are better than others!)
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I, too, believe that H is doing his very best to include you, to be open and honest.....and I also believe that this is just someone that he knows at school and talks with about school stuff....
I guess I want to reiterate (in support of your post here) that my original post really wasn't suggesting that something was going on with h and ff. It was more about ME ( ) and how no matter what happens, there's a dynamic in my R that I really want to change...that of my being closed off and insecure and jealous.
I guess I kind of liken it to my approach to DB'ing in general (well, on a good day! ) -- the notion that whatever comes to pass, I have some growing to do for myself -- it's far less of a commentary on h and "his stuff" and far more about me and how I want to act and feel and react. Right now, I really see myself closing down at times and I don't like it.
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
) and how no matter what happens, there's a dynamic in my R that I really want to change...that of my being closed off and insecure and jealous.
) -- the notion that whatever comes to pass, I have some growing to do for myself -- it's far less of a commentary on h and "his stuff" and far more about me and how I want to act and feel and react. Right now, I really see myself closing down at times and I don't like it. 
