Quote: TBH, my original post was sort of less about ff and more about how I've been reacting to h. Here's the dynamic I'm trying to change:
1. h mentions ff (any of them!) either with or without mentioning mf's
2. sage's heart clenches, her stomach drops, she revisits days gone by. She gets quiet, and pulls back a bit from h -- physically and emotionally
3. h appears confused and wonders if he shouldn't talk anymore about ffs.
4. Sage realizes that she's reacted in such a way to close off communication and tries to rally.
5. everyone feels bad
I'm not sure if this makes sense. Let me assure you that I am a work in progress, here!
This makes perfect sense in my mind Sage. I do the above (0ften! and usually about other kind of stuff) and it's never a good outcome for anybody.
Quote: their face to face contact is limited to school stuff and I'm rarely (if ever) there. He had made mention at one time about socializing with ff and her h and he's been very open to discussing her with me...so, I think he's doing his best to include me.
I, too, believe that H is doing his very best to include you, to be open and honest.....and I also believe that this is just someone that he knows at school and talks with about school stuff....I have a couple of mf here at work (using the word "friend" lightly...which is what many of us do in a work/school setting) and I can assure you and H that there is nothing going on.
I don't know...perhaps I'm still too naive but I don't see anything wrong with it...considering how open and honest he seems to be with you.
