For the ten years up until just before the bomb, I trusted my H completely.
There was one (attractive) friend that he used to flirt with a lot, in front of me, when we together at occasions with lots of other people. I once or twice questioned him about it, and he alwasy said, how ridiculous, it is just a little harmlees flirting. I gave H the benefit of the doubt, although I would have preferred he not flirt.
Of course both his OW started out with the flirting stuff, which then moved on to me being excluded as well.
And anyway, in restrospect, I think that -
1) *I* would not have felt comfortable flirting with common friends with him there
2) Did he not get that I didn't feel comfortable with him flirting? Did my feelings have nothing to do with how he might choose to behave?
I never did test whether he would have been equally sanguine about ME flirting with OUR male friends. I rather suspect not, if the famous double standard is anything to go by.
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
