I'll ask my H to send you some notes - I think I still have your email address, but you might send it to me again at elliestough at "very warm mail" .com
He's got a great sense of what people want and how to keep an event from losing momentum.
so, I' back from the interview (Ellie, thanks so much for h's suggestions!). I think it went really well. I was well-prepared and they seemed interested and the conversations just kind of flowed. If they are interested in pursuing this further they'll have me in for a second interview (to meet with someone from the board of directors).
The job seems interesting and it seems as though I could learn a lot of key nonprofit stuff. Probably take on as much responsibility as I want, too!
I was completely stressed out over the weekend between the pending interview and my school project. I also spent time with my dad and (separately) my mom so that's always stressful too...h has been completely, utterly and totally awesome. He told me on Friday that he would be creating a "cocoon of love" for me all weekend. So, basically no matter what I asked or expressed he would say "yes, that does occur in the 'cocoon of love'" or not. He even made up some hand gestures to indicate it from afar.
He's sitting here near me working on his homework.
I'm meeting with my teacher this afternoon. Not too psyched about that but I do think it will alleviate some of the "unknowns" of my project and help me feel more focused.
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
I have read your advise to other threads here. I was wondering, you and your H are still together? Did H ever leave your home? My h says he doesn't want to be married. Says he is leaving as soon as I graduate and get a job. I graduate in April but finding a job can be a challenge because teachers in public school don't start until fall. I know that I probably could read back into your threads to find the answer to my question. I read a post of yours on Calystra and Ceberon's thread. I noticed that you said then that your H had not left.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
Hi Sage - Can we award your H the most romantic on Piecing? How fabulous to have a cocoon of love
Slowly (and kml and Mellanie),
Yes, we can certainly give h that award. He deserves it for so many things that he does. The "cocoon of love" idea is downright adorable! Yesterday or the day before I gave him a hard time about something (just joking) and he pretended to give me a karate kick and I said "hey, what happened to the cocoon of love?" and he said "It's turned into the cocoon of hate and mistrust" He even made THAT sound adorable and romantic!
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
Quote: I was wondering, you and your H are still together?
Yes, my h and I are still together and doing very well.
Quote: Did H ever leave your home?
No, he didn't ever leave.
Quote: My h says he doesn't want to be married. Says he is leaving as soon as I graduate and get a job. I graduate in April but finding a job can be a challenge because teachers in public school don't start until fall.
My h said he didn't want to be married either. The first few months (longer?) of DB'ing were completely in the face of him not wanting to be there but not moving out. It can definitely be turned around if my sitch is any example!
Sounds like you have some time to really DB with him in the home. I'm not familiar with your sitch...are you following the program???
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
Just a quick update. Things have been really hectic here. I took monday off (for the interview) and spent yesterday catching up. Today has been crazy and the week is getting worse. My grandmother (dad's mom) died this AM so I need/want to carve off time to spend with my family.
I think I posted that the interview went really well. They want me to come back for a second interview (yahoo!) so I'm hoping to do that Monday or Tuesday. I'm feeling a bit more sure about moving forward if they offer me the job.
I have to admit that I've seen a bit of the "old sage" in the last few days around this job, some $$ fears, etc. I think it was Monday afternoon that I could hear myself semi-preaching to h (who was adamantly saying he was completely supportive of me!) about how we'd have to tighten our belts, how behaviors would have to change, etc. It wasn't mean or over the top but it was like I was watching myself with dismay. Wasn't this wonderful person telling me that he was 100% committed to making this new job/lower income dream work and I'm yak, yak, yaking as though he hasn't said any of that?
Bottom line is that I was letting my fear get in the way of hearing what he was saying and showering him with thanks and kisses. I think I was even using him as a barrier for dealing with my own concerns/misgivings/fears about what taking this (hey, they haven't offered it to me!) job.
Not beating myself up...just recognizing that it's easy for me to slip into "blah, blah, blah" mode when I get stressed and to try to steamroll over h's support. I think I need to weave a cocoon of love for the big guy.
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
