Thought I'd check out your thread. You've provided me with pretty good advice in the past. I see that you're doing great and clearly know what you're talking about (not that I ever had any doubt).
You probably don't know this name since I used to be phonixdeu (deliberate misspell, I don't know the capabilities of the search thing). I didn't reply on my phoenix(deux) thread because I'm giving it up for awhile. My wife will surely keep reading it to see what's up and I want her to at least get the impression that I'm doing something else besides pining away on here for her. So I had to find you here under this new name. Thanks for all the advice. I've appreciated when you've popped in to give me insight. You asked how did she come to read my thread? By my own stupidity. She cornered me...she accused me of giving up on the marriage so we might as well divorce. I said I haven't given up. She said your actions don't tell me that. So I said I'm following the advice of the DB website. Gave her my name myself. I actually never thought she'd look. She's never been interested before. I thought she'd forget either the site or the name, but I guess not. Go figure. I don't know if she would start her own thread. It was my hope that while she was here she'd get curious. The one thing about her (and I've always loved it about her) is that she never digests something like this in one try. She keeps coming back to it and reading and re-reading to see what she missed. I'm hoping that will lead to looking at other threads and other situations and maybe clicking on the success stories. Here's to hoping.
So anyway now I'm la_esperanza which by my limited knowledge of Spanish means Hope. It's a good thing to have I think.
Sorry to hijack your thread. Just didn't want to be rude and not answer your questions. You really give hope that DBing can work. I hope it's not too late for me. I've moved to the divorced but Dbing area, but hope I don't actually get there. If I do I'll just keep DBing. End of hijack. Come see me at my new location sometime.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
So I had to find you here under this new name. Thanks for all the advice. I've appreciated when you've popped in to give me insight. You asked how did she come to read my thread? By my own stupidity. She cornered me...she accused me of giving up on the marriage so we might as well divorce. I said I haven't given up. She said your actions don't tell me that. So I said I'm following the advice of the DB website. Gave her my name myself. I actually never thought she'd look. She's never been interested before. I thought she'd forget either the site or the name, but I guess not. Go figure. I don't know if she would start her own thread. It was my hope that while she was here she'd get curious. The one thing about her (and I've always loved it about her) is that she never digests something like this in one try. She keeps coming back to it and reading and re-reading to see what she missed. I'm hoping that will lead to looking at other threads and other situations and maybe clicking on the success stories. Here's to hoping.
