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This really clocked me:
Quote: There are times when I feel as though I have fears oozing out of every pore...but no doubt it doesn't look that way to the outside world...more like a barrier or distance or some sort of bravado. This morning it occurred to me that in my recent bout of "scaredy-catness" I think I'm telegraphing dissatisfaction to h -- not fear and love and a desire for closeness.
I do this very thing - when I feel threatened or scared, I become completely shut off and aloof. S. has recently called it "strained and formal," and I usually call it my "desperately bored and too cool" mask. I do it at parties (and boy, let me tell you, it's a huge hit ) because I'm nervous, but S. senses it, too, when he's talking about his (mostly F) friends, etc. (i.e., things that threaten me). Thanks for pointing this out... very helpful to remember that fear is most often telegraphed as something else - dissatisfaction is a biggie for me, too. NOT the kind of energy we want to be exuding, right?
!! Makes me grin from ear to ear.
) because I'm nervous, but S. senses it, too, when he's talking about his (mostly F) friends, etc. (i.e., things that threaten me). Thanks for pointing this out... very helpful to remember that fear is most often telegraphed as something else - dissatisfaction is a biggie for me, too. NOT the kind of energy we want to be exuding, right?
