Looking backward...but only to move forward THREE

[sage]

I have a burning question for you. Way, way back in my early sitch I asked about the 5LL book and you suggested that I show W the KLA tapes. I plan to buy the KLA tapes for myself and see what new things I can learn about.

Did I really suggest that?

Question: During the separation from your H and his involvement with the OW, would there have been some impact if you had shown H the KLA tapes while he was into the OW? Would that have shortened your separation and faciliated the reconcilation process faster? Or would that have possibly pushed H further away from the M?

My h and I were never separated. His involvement with ow occurred while he was living with me. But, to your question, my h would have been pushed much further away if I had brought up the KLA tapes to him, or any "help" book for that matter.

Even now, I don't think he'd be thrilled if I brought home a book or tape for us to share. I have mentioned the LL's to him a few times (in casual conversation) and some thoughts on M&V as well. Also, this weekend he made some reference to filling up my "love bank account" so I told him a bit about the "love tank" theory as well (is it Harley? Can't remember)....but a pointed "here, this will help us" statement would not go over well.

Sage