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OG and HP,
I've always thought that a lot of the world's problems are due to lack of sex and chocolate.



Yum

This I've put alot of thought into and it's hard. special in jokes between you? Yes she'll have in jokes with other close freinds, but not the special ones she has with you. Shared memories, compliments. Part of it is the vibe put into the activities, which is extremely hard to quanitfy.

My H is very non verbal, and I NEED a certain amount of verbal attention. His primary love language is acts of service, so there was a time when we weren't connected that he just came across as a decent human being, a roommate, instead of a husband who wanted me as his very own special wife. The actions may not have been any different, but the attitude sure was.

Have you ever had a moment of feeling love wash over you from somthing she did or said that was non physically connected? (My H filled my gas tank and when I noticed, I got a rush of "wow, he loves me".)

When she feels a sense of love for you what does she do? What does she say she does? Sometimes, because my H is also oblivious to things that are right, I will tell him that I had a love rush for him and to show it I did the laundry, or sewed on that button, or am spending some time with doing this or that with you.

What does your wife say she does when she wants to emotionally connect with you?

I sit on his lap (can't with the kids). Of course I'm rather willing to sit in any man's lap whom I like and trust and is pleased with a lap full of me. So that doesn't help much.


Morninglory