Well, Cemar, I don't think the problem is that she is LD or has the 'wrong' love language but rather that the two of you have allowed your R to deteriorate to such a point that neither of you want to do special things for the other, to show that unique "couple" kinda love.
My H is an acts of service man but he does lots of things for me that he wouldn't do for other people. For example, he runs a bath for me or gives me a backrub or (attempts to) cooks dinner so I don't have to do it.
If your wife doesn't want to do anything nice for you, then you need to ask her why that is and what you can do to rectify the dung heap that your marriage has become--but just because a person is not a PT person doesn't necessarily mean that they can't show unique 'couple' love or affection...THAT is a choice.
