Good points. What I am looking for is how does a LD express a unique type of desire to their spouse that is NOT PT. My wife has different love languages, maybe acts of serive. So to her maybe the following actions on her part show love:
1) Take care of the kids. 2) Clean the house. 3) Pay the bills. 4) Go out to dinner. 5) Be in the same room together. 6) Time together. 7) Gifts and cards. 8) Hugging and kissing that is not sexual in nature.
Basically, from what I see, everything that she seems to find important enough to do just seems to be something that she would do for just about ANYONE. I can not see anything that she does for me that is unique to me. I am treated no better then kids and relatives, and in many ways I am actually treated WORSE.
So if you are LD and physical touch is not you ticket, then how can you possibly show love (desire) in a way that is actually meaningful to your spouse?
