Okay, this is not directly sex (or lack thereof) related but is directly related to R with H. I was a stay-at-home M for 5 years until approximately 3 mos. ago., H really liked this. I took a temp job which will end this Friday, therefore I will be becoming a stay-at-home M once again. This is fine/great. I love my kids very much and due to my past childhood experiences it is important to me and also my H (his mom was a SATM) to keep the kids out of daycare.
This is the advise I need. There are so many issues flying out there in our R right now. We were adjusting to the schedule of me working which brought up so many things re: his parenting in direct relation to how much he depended on his mother to do in that regard. (she basically lives with us). That will pretty much resolve itself come next week however my attitude when it comes to that, hey I'm only human, will not. I have tried discussing this issue with him and he just DOES NOT get it.
Okay, next Money. H likes me home - when at the temp job we only saw each other on weekends and because, let's be honest, it's easier at the homefront and he doesn't have to depend on his mother for anything (in my opinion he shouldn't have gotten himself in the habit of letting her come over from morning until I got home to watch the kids but I understand it made his life easier and then he didn't have to deal with toddlers under foot. Not justifying, TRUST ME, I just understand WHY he did it. But, I won't be bringing home a paycheck now and he's already gone on the "money is tight" warpath.
Background: My H loves to worry - loves it loves it! Part of his personality. Almost one of his endearing traits really. I love this man and he's got THE best and most holsum (sp?) of hearts but at times it can be taxing. I have no doubt he will bring up "$" everyday, literally. Don't get me wrong, we are a single income family and not the Rocherfellers (sp?) but my pantry is packed and kids are nicely dressed - not as tight as my H would have someone believe.
So, I'm going to be adjusting to being at home 24-7, little adult convo & a H who knows he has a captive audience for his ranting......
This may sound and be a little extreme, but I think I've gotten my point across.
