I've posted that I am going to "let go", and I am. I'm not the type of person who does anything impulsively or on the spur of the moment. I research, I think, I prepare so that when it happens, I'm confident in my actions. So as a part of letting go, I made an appt w/an attorney just to talk and prepare, if it comes to D.
Last week I had to go to Chicago on biz. WAW&I went back and forth several time about whether she had any responsiblity towards taking care of the dogs and cat while I was away. Her statement was that her only responsibilty was to her children. WOW! What if we all could just drop everything and only take along what we wanted!?!? I arranged for someone to come to take care of OUR pets.
Since D13&D15 stayed at the apt w/WAW last week and things went OK, she talked to them and they decided that the girls would stay overnight at the apt on Tue & Thu from now on. I learned this in an email from WAW after the fact. I replied saying that I thought that it was proper for her & I to discuss changes in the custody sitch and agree to them before informing D13&D15. I also said that I did not want to change the current custody arrangements. (We alternate weekends. The girls also go to her apt on Tue & Thu for dinner and she brings them back at 9PM, all other times they are home w/me). She responded that she talked to her attorney and that she would see me in family court. I replied OK.
This morning I received an unsolicited email which seemed that she may be back peddling a bit. I replied that I was meeting an attorney on Fri and would pass along her attorney's contact info. I also said that I felt it was unfortunate that she has chosen this route to settle our differences about the custody of the girls. I would have rather had a cooperative discussion to come to an agreement together. WAW called a few minutes later and stated that she also would like to have a cooperative discussion to come to an agreement together. We're going to set up a time to talk about it over the phone.
This is really the first time that I have not backed down when she waved the attorney flag in my face. I wonder if it had anything to do with her reaction.
So there we have it. I made the decision to let go and explore what that meant in the legal sense of the word, WAW invited me to family court, I said OK and now WAW wants to talk.
The lap bar is down and I hear that clink clink clink as we head up the steep climb. All I see is sky but the merry-go-round over there looks so much more fun. Oh well, here we gooooooo!
