Quote: Has your W historically been the type to bottle her true feelings so as not to cause a rift? Is it possible she is trying to reclaim some control in her life that she perceives she lost?
BINGO! You hit the nail on the head. WAW has said that the never said anything b/c she didn't want to rock the boat. She said that she feels like she has lived her life the way others want her to.
And now I feel like she has a controlling death grip on our R. The more I pull, the more she is going to pull, but the less I pull doesn't translate her pulling less.
Her story is kinda complicated b/c she suffer emotial trauma in her teen years before she met me. B/c it was never dealt with, I think that she stuffed it all inside and now she is letting it out and is not the same person anymore. She is self-centered, self-absorbed and selfish, but I haven't told her that.
It seems to me that "everybody else" on this BB has a SP who can't decide b/t the OP or the SP. In my case SP has decided on OP and thus I feel a step behind everyone else. I could 180 myself in a Budist Monk playing tabla drums and she wouldn't notice b/c she's not here . . . physically, mentally or emotionally.
