Do I want to know?

[Jabez]

NYS: I was reading Dr.Phil's Self Matters last night and I had the thought that the reason I have such a hard time w/some of the DB'ing ideas is that they go against my authentic self. One of my core values is integrity. First adultery is a sin against my WAW's integrity, and second, in my perception, to "accept" the adultery and try to "win my WAW back" also seems to contradict MY integrity and my authentic self.

I read a post of yours on another thread where you said something like

We shouldn't expect different behavior from WAS's because that's the way WAS's behave. If you were swimming with sharks you would expect them to act like sharks.

This is all true, it's just that I feel like I was invited to swim with the dolphins and then the shark came out of the dolphin's clothing.