After reading you post, I realized that in email exchanges w/WAW when I found somthing to agree w/in her message, regardless of how flaming it was, the exchange either ended or changed tone or direction.

I need to keep thinking of things about her to talk about with her. Things that don't involve D13, D15 or R.

I'm not sure about the DB & DR books, but on the KLA tapes, the letter read is about a serparation that lasts only 4 weeks and Michelle mentions a 2-week timeframe to assess whether or not what you're doing is working.