NYS: Going dark has become easy, but doesn't seem to move us forward. Yesterday I received an email saying that she was uncomfortable at the art show with the D's & I. She felt the the D's felt the same way and that in the future the 4 of us shouldn't be together.
I interpreted it as her projecting her feelings onto the D's becuase I did not get that feeling from them, just from her.
I wrote back acknowledging that I perceived that she was uncomfortable and that I thought that we needed to put the D's interest first. I also stated that I am continuing counseling so that I could deal with my feelings about the situation as positively as possible.
Later, rather than email me about something else, she called me and was very upbeat.
Knowing that she said apathy played a major role in our marriage, going dark could be percieved as "more of the same". I feel like I need to walk that thread of a line between dark and pursuit.
I felt good about my reply and the result that I got. I just am stymied as to how to keep the communication going.
