I also feel that to set a blanket statement of saying that addressing the affair either with WAW or OM will drive them closer together is like a one size fits all solution.
No more so a blanket statement than saying "WAS delusions are 4 steps: rationalization, projection, repression and altered memory" is it? there are reasons underlying both statements, from what I've read.
BYW, those 4 steps sound about right to me.
Sorry I haven't gotten back to you on your earlier post, I missed that one. From the sound of wife's projection/antagonism, I'd say go kinda dark for a while, see if her anger dissipates in time, and just keep any contact with her positive, no matter what she throws at you. I mean, not even a weird look back. Don't even blink. Don't raise an eyebrow. Don't even make a peep. Just totally physically and verbally ignore any negativity on her part.
