Do I want to know?

[Jabez]

I DO understand why you did it. You want EVERYONE possible to know what this guy helped do your R, right?

Not quite. She contacted me. She had questions she wanted answered and I obliged, truthfully. She wanted to confirm lies. She wanted to vent anger at what WAW has done to her R w/son.

Did you say you were D already?

No, I said that I feel like I have to "act as if" we were D. The papers are here, but just gathering dust.

I deal enough with comparisons of OW and myself

There's really no comparison here. He fills WAW's need for availablility. He's home early everyday from school, has no lawn to mow or kids to spend time w/ (save for every other weekend). WAW has him all to herself. I work more hours, am taking care of the house by myself and live w/D's so I have less free time. I have enough character & integrity to not mess w/a married woman. There's really no comparison here.

there may be possibity of contact going forward.

This is where I disagree w/NYS. Maybe's and possibilities aren't setting realistic, concrete, achievable goals. I really don't want my life planned around maybe's and possibilities. If I were the fly on the wall I can't see maybe's and possibilities. I set a goal of more contact so I plan contact by "happening to take out the trash" when W drops off D's. Gives me a chance to help unload D's stuff from the car and poke my head in, smile and say Hi, then go back inside.