Do I want to know?

[Jabez]

I don't know why you contacted the OM's mom, all it did was contribute a bleak picture for you. Additionally, it will get back to the OM and your WAW, and they likely will feel you're invading and snooping by having contacted her.

I didn't contact her, she contacted me, so it's not like I sought her out to tell her to get her son away from my W. She was sick of being lied to by her son and wanted to learn what I knew. I see her every week in church, she has known me for 8 years.

You're concentrating on a symptom rather than the disease.

Your right, the OM is the symptom, not the disease. Actually hearing mom's story has revealed one of my character flaws to me. From a distance, I see that I had the same relationship w/WAW as she has w/OM. Hearing their story made me realize that is was also our story. Something for me to work on.

I've been dark since Feb 2 (save for communication about taxes and kids). Most times when I'm around her (drop off & pick up of kids) I smile and act happy. W's need that OM fills is TIME. He has it being a school teacher and living in an apartment only seeing his D every other weekend. Ironincally time is my ally. OM's Mom is very upset that WAW calls him so often. W has come between them. Sooner or later OM will need some breathing space and then . . . ?

The OM is probably adding to that by also dissing you.

I happend to bump into him a few weeks ago. I asked him about hobbies and his D and how school was going. Really just pleasant small talk. Nothing angry or about WAW. Just like we did before this happened.

And as sweet as his mom may have seemed to be, you don't know if she's also painting a negative picture of you to them, as blood is thicker than water.

OM's Mom was very grateful that I talked to her. She had a lot to get off her chest (vent anger at WAW) and questions she wanted truthfully answered. Her overall message to me was that she was tired of being lied to.