I would tell your daugther's directly, without anger and just stick to the facts. I did this for my two sons, 6 and 10. Most people will say shelter the kids. I don't agree and believe in honesty. Although they were hurt, they know that I was honest with them, and I think that is better then being sheltered and hearing the 'Sometimes Mom's and Dad's don't get along' BS.
I also want my kids to grow up with good values and morals, and not pretending that this just 'happens'. I never want my children to go through this, so I answer there questions honestly and openly.
I don't want to feel like I'm giving them a clear message on drugs and other issues, and then skirting relationship messages. I feel that would not make me the best parent I can be. No where in the bible does it say 'thou shall not smoke weed', but we know that's wrong. I want my kids to have a clear moral sense.
