If you've been following this thread, you know that some friends have come to me with the identity of the OM. In the past 6 weeks, the number of people that know about what is going on has grown. I fear now that teen D's will find out "on the street". I plan on talking to W about my concern. She knows that I know about the OM, but we haven't talked about it. I plan on presenting this as a concern for our D's. I won't get involved in a discussion on the rightness or wrongness of the relationship. I just want our D's to find out from her/us/me.
Since DB'ing is goal oriented, I have to ask what is my goal and what do I hope to accomplish? My goal is being honest with my W about my concern and being honest w/our D's. I fear that they will learn of this over hearing gossip, or worse yet, being taunted by a peer.
I will be calm and non-judgmental just stating the fact that I am concerned about our D's and that they need to know.
