Do I want to know?

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I'm new here. I read the DR book and am considering trying it.
BUT.......WHY??? If it works, what are we getting back? A cheater and a liar.

And how will we feel about our work and trouble (assuming we get our cheater back) in 2,3,5? years when we think about everything we did to help the M while our spouses were sleeping with someone else?

I swear I still love my wife. But I don't think we should stay together if she can't do at least SOMETHING to help our R.

I predict resentment, SERIOUS resentment, in 2,3,5? years if I (DBer) do all the work and she (WAS) decides to come back.

Yeah, I'm a cynic. Maybe someone can show me where my logic is flawed???